Disclaimer: I am a DINK, and my opinions are my current opinions and they very well could change in the future.
Why the Disclaimer? Well I’m sure some of my opinions in this post may differ from other’s opinions, and I can only speculate on how I will feel in the future, when and if I have little ones of my own, but opinions are like “you know whats” and everyone has one! LOL 🙂
Lately I have been hearing this song called “Don’t Miss Your Life” by Phil Vassar on the radio ALL THE TIME, and every time I hear it I just CRINGE! I honestly feel that this song represents the problem with the world today. I’m not saying that this just started, I’m sure you have heard the song “Cat’s In The Cradle” by Harry Chapin from 1974. So this new way of thinking started with some people in our parents generation, and then it was passed down to the kids who are now in their 30’s and 40’s and it is being passed on to the next generation. Every generation is getting worse with this sense of entitlement is instilled in them.
I fully understand that parents want/need to be there for their child(ren). But the problem is people are now using this “Don’t Miss Your Life” excuse for EVERYTHING! I remember back in the 90’s I was in High School, and my parents owned a company that sold plans to tractors and backhoes. They decided that they were going to try to hire a Virginia Tech graduate to inter during the summer, with the possibility of being hired on full time once he/she graduated. I clearly remember that one of the guys told my parents in an interview that he “HAD” to have 2 months off each year, because he was an avid skier and wanted to spend 2 months each year skiing in Colorado. WHAT?!?!? You, sir, are a single, young, recent college grad, and you have these demands of unheard of time off… to SKI?!?! This is the sense of entitlement that has ruined our country. He didn’t want to Miss His Life, so he was willing to pass on a good paying job, which would definitely help with those student loans, just to ski! And he didn’t realize that if he put the time in now, over the years he would earn more money to enjoy that expensive hobby, and earn more time off, and THEN he could enjoy his passion.
So many people think that if you go to college, you should be able to walk out of there with this fancy piece of paper, and get a great paying job, and awesome benefits, tons of time off, and a cushy corner office. Have you ever seen “The Devil Wears Prada”? Well the real world is just like the first half of that movie, you get a college degree, and then you start out low on the totem pole, the gofer, the one that will give every waking second to your job. And after you have proved yourself and your intelligence, then you can move up. This takes time, and after you put in this hard work and tons of effort, you will be rewarded with time off, raises etc. But in this day in age we expect instant gratification (can’t look something up at a library, you MUST have a smartphone and Google it… we don’t want to cook, too much time, just hit the drive thru) we do not want to start at the bottom and work our way up, we want to be on top, INSTANTLY! Well, unfortunately, the world doesn’t work that way. You do not “Deserve” anything!!! You only earn things in life! People think that because they got a college education that they “deserve” a good paying job, with tons of time off…. don’t believe me, just go ask the OWS people, they want their amazing jobs, but they aren’t willing to put the work in. Yes, you may have to work 60-70 hour weeks, while only being paid for 40, its called salary, get over it! But if you push hard, and prove your worth, you will be rewarded. I know that I am young, and still have a long way to go. I am still learning, and still pushing to be the best! But I am a DINK, and with that, it gives me the freedom to push even harder. Because I know once I have children, things will change, my life will change, and even my priorities will change. So I have to push hard now!
Alas, I have gotten off topic. So what about the ones who do have kids? Should they quit their jobs, and all stay home 24/7 with their children? So they can “watch them grow”? Well that is what society tells us is the right thing to do. THIS IS CRAZY!!! Just as the “Don’t Miss Your Life” song says, just skip your important business trip to be home for your daughter’s A Honor Roll celebration. Well don’t worry about paying for the roof over their heads, or food in their bellies, or even your cell phone, because the government has a program where they will give all of that to you. So don’t work, don’t try, just “watch them grow”. How many of these people that give up so much in their careers to not “miss their life”, spend every second that they are home with their children? Or do they come home, and claim they are tired, plop in front of the TV or Computer and just tell the kids to “go play in the other room”? Do they include their children in their hobbies? Do they truly spend every waking second they are away from work interacting and teaching their children? hmmm…. I guess I’m so not sure, but I have this sneaking suspicion that they do not. I remember my parents including me in everything, EVERYTHING was a learning experience. The 30 minute drive to school and the 30 minute drive home, was just 1 hour a day that was spent learning. Then when we got home, the learning continued, cooking, cleaning, sewing, reloading bullets (how cool is that?), there were so many “projects” in our house throughout my childhood, I can’t even begin to name them all. But I do remember that we spent a LOT of time together!
We may not always get all the time we want to spend with our family, but the important thing is, that we make the most of the time we have! Because if you don’t, you will then have the subconscious need to attend every little “event” and sacrifice your money making abilities for the little things, when you really missed the big things and didn’t know it. For example, I will NEVER forget driving home, and my dad and I pulling over and discussing the need for the wires coming down from the Telephone poles, and discussing Tension, I was in elementary school. Now THAT was a big event, and I’m glad he didn’t miss it! Money does not bring happiness, but you must have a balance in life between family and work, you cannot have it all one way. And it is obvious that we have swung too far in one direction, and we need to balance this out. Because if we don’t, then no one will be working, we will all stay home 24/7 to “watch our children grow”. And when all the parents of the world are just spending their time “watching their children grow” then who will be paying the taxes that pay for that government housing they are living in, and the Assurance Wireless that gives them a free cell phone? Oh wait… no one.
It seems the children of our country are missing THEIR life because of the choices we have made, and the examples we have set.